{"id":2916,"date":"2020-11-30T14:46:49","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T11:46:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bolvadinsevgisi.com\/?p=2916"},"modified":"2020-11-30T15:38:29","modified_gmt":"2020-11-30T12:38:29","slug":"bolvadinde-gelin-olmak","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/bolvadinsevgisi.com\/?p=2916","title":{"rendered":"BOLVAD\u0130N\u2019DE GEL\u0130N OLMAK"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2><strong>BOLVAD\u0130N\u2019DE GEL\u0130N OLMAK<\/strong><br><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Gelin olmak\u2026Her gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n r\u00fcyas\u0131\u2026B\u00fct\u00fcn k\u0131zlar, gelin olabilmenin hayaliyle ya\u015farlar. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczdeki gelin k\u0131zlar, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzdaki gelinlere g\u00f6re \u00e7ok farkl\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz gelinleri her t\u00fcrl\u00fc imkana sahip olup; genellikle rahat, konfor ve l\u00fcks hayat i\u00e7indedirler. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce <strong>\u201cEv ev \u00fcst\u00fcnde olmaz\u201d<\/strong> d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle kaynana yan\u0131nda oturmay\u0131p, ayr\u0131 bir evde oturmak isterler. Evlenmeden b\u00fct\u00fcn e\u015fyalar\u0131 al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, evlilik sonras\u0131 da bir hedefleri kalmamaktad\u0131r. Can s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131ndan da kavga etmektedirler.\u00a0\u00a0 Daha l\u00fcks ve g\u00f6steri\u015fe hayata kendilerini kapt\u0131rmaktad\u0131rlar. Evlerdeki \u2018erkek\u2019 hakimiyetinin yerini, kad\u0131n hakimiyeti alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fc, evlilik y\u0131ld\u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fc, \u00fczerinde insan, cami ve K\u00e2be resimli kutlama pastalar\u0131, zengin sofralar, sosyetik umre turlar\u0131\u2026\u0130sraf ve l\u00fcks saltanat, \u0130slam\u2019\u0131n alt\u0131nc\u0131 \u015fart\u0131 oldu. \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden, g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde baz\u0131 evliliklerinin sonu h\u00fcsran olmaktad\u0131r.\u00a0 Hayatta \u00fc\u00e7 \u015fey ki\u015finin \u00f6z\u00fcne zarar verir: \u00d6fke, a\u00e7g\u00f6zl\u00fcl\u00fck, kibir\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u00c7OCUK GEL\u0130NLER<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u015eimdi de; \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzdaki cefak\u00e2r, vefak\u00e2r, itaatk\u00e2r gelinlere gelelim. O\u011flu, evlilik ya\u015f\u0131na gelmi\u015f olan gay\u0131nna, kendilerine uygun <strong>\u201ctakkas\u0131 takkas\u0131na uyan\u201d<\/strong> gelin olacak k\u0131z aramaya ba\u015flar. Genellikle k\u0131zlar, 14 ya\u015f\u0131ndan itibaren gelin olmaktad\u0131rlar. Baz\u0131 k\u0131z babalar\u0131 da <strong>\u201cK\u0131z\u0131 sandalyeye otutturcan, aya\u011f\u0131<\/strong> <strong>yere de\u011ferse vercen!\u201d<\/strong> d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle ve evde bir bo\u011faz eksik olsun, mant\u0131\u011f\u0131yla k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta gelin ederlerdi. \u0130lkokulu bitiren k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu, -e\u011fer okula gitmi\u015fse- gelin olmaya aday olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc. Gay\u0131nnalar da genellikle, <strong>\u201cg\u00f6z\u00fc a\u00e7\u0131lmad\u0131k\u201d<\/strong> olsun diye, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131zlara isteyici giderlerdi. K\u0131z taraf\u0131: <strong>\u201cDaha ya\u015f\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck\u2026\u201d<\/strong> derse, gay\u0131nna olacak hemen at\u0131l\u0131r: <strong>\u201cBu da benim k\u0131z\u0131m olcak! Goynumda<\/strong> <strong>b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fcn ben onu!\u201d<\/strong> der, ikna etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman k\u0131za hi\u00e7 sorulmadan verilirdi. O\u011flan-k\u0131z birbirlerini hi\u00e7 g\u00f6rmeden ve tan\u0131madan evlendirilirdi. Benim en \u00e7ok can\u0131m\u0131 s\u0131kan da, kar\u0131s\u0131 \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f olan ve 50 ya\u015f\u0131na yakla\u015fm\u0131\u015f erkeklerin, 16 ya\u015f\u0131nda k\u0131z almalar\u0131 idi. Adam\u0131n variyeti biraz d\u00fczg\u00fcn ise, k\u0131z taraf\u0131: <strong>\u201cK\u0131z\u0131m hi\u00e7 olmazsa<\/strong> <strong>g\u00fcn g\u00f6rs\u00fcn!\u201d<\/strong> diye babas\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki adamlara verirlerdi. Murad\u0131n\u0131 alamam\u0131\u015f vah garip k\u0131zlar vah!&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>GERDEK<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Gerdek sabah\u0131, gelin k\u0131z sabah ezan\u0131ndan \u00f6nce kalkar \u2013sanki adam her g\u00fcn namaz k\u0131l\u0131yormu\u015f gibi- kaynatas\u0131n\u0131n eline abdest suyu d\u00f6kerdi. \u0130lk g\u00fcnden itaatli olmaya y\u00f6nlendirilirdi. Gelinlerin \u00e7o\u011funa \u00a0\u00a0da, e\u011freti tak\u0131lan ziynet e\u015fyalar\u0131 ve baz\u0131 giyecekler hemen geri al\u0131n\u0131rd\u0131. Yeni gelin k\u0131rk g\u00fcn kap\u0131dan d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lmaz, eve al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 sa\u011flan\u0131rd\u0131. Bu s\u00fcre zarf\u0131nda hi\u00e7 kimseyle konu\u015fmaz, i\u015faret diliyle konu\u015furdu. K\u0131rk g\u00fcnden sonra konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar fakat kesinlikle kaynatan\u0131n yan\u0131nda sesli konu\u015fmaz, f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131yla konu\u015furdu. Evde ba\u015fka gelin varsa, adlar\u0131yla hitap edilmez: <strong>\u201cG\u00fc\u00e7\u00e7\u00fck gelin! B\u00f6y\u00fck gelin!\u201d<\/strong> diye seslenilirdi. Gelinin g\u00f6revleri \u00e7ok fazla idi. \u00c7e\u015fmeden su ta\u015f\u0131mas\u0131, hamur katmas\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fa bakmas\u0131, her evde en az bir sa\u011f\u0131l\u0131r inek oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in hayvana bakmas\u0131, \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r y\u0131kamas\u0131\u2026Evlerin bir k\u00f6\u015fesinde veya avlunun bir kenar\u0131nda, \u015fimdi \u2018lavabo\u2019 dedi\u011fimiz \u2018abdestlik\u2019ler vard\u0131. Orada testiler s\u0131ral\u0131 olurdu. El ve bula\u015f\u0131k y\u0131kama yeri idi. Yeme\u011fi yapan, sofray\u0131 kuran, bula\u015f\u0131klar\u0131 y\u0131kayan gelinin g\u00f6revleri bitmi\u015f say\u0131lmazd\u0131. Yemekten sonra sol omzuna pe\u015fkiri atar, eline ibrik ve le\u011fen alarak yemek yiyenlerin elini y\u0131katt\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131. \u00d6nce kaynatatan ba\u015flan\u0131r, s\u0131ravard\u0131 di\u011ferlerinin elini y\u0131kat\u0131rd\u0131. Adamlar, el y\u0131kama yerine gitmeye \u00fc\u015fenirler, suyu sabunu ayaklar\u0131na getirtirlerdi. Geline zul\u00fcm\u2026.O gelinlerin hakk\u0131 nas\u0131l \u00f6denecek?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaynana, k\u0131z\u0131 almadan \u00f6nce s\u00f6yledi\u011fi: <strong>\u201cKoynumda b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcr\u00fcm\u201d<\/strong> s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc unutur, gelin <strong>\u201cbilmiyorum\u201d<\/strong> dedi\u011fi zaman: <strong>\u201cAha nas\u0131 bilmezsin! Gocay\u0131 nas\u0131 biliyon!\u201d<\/strong> der azarlan\u0131rd\u0131. Yemek vakitleri harici ekmek ve di\u011fer yiyecekler kilitlenirdi. Gelin, so\u011fuklarda kendi odas\u0131ndaki sobaya, gay\u0131nnadan sakl\u0131 olarak odun getirip atard\u0131. E\u011fer gelin, k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu do\u011furduysa, sanki su\u00e7 ondaym\u0131\u015f gibi su\u00e7lan\u0131rd\u0131. Bu \u015fartlarda g\u00fcnler ge\u00e7er, y\u0131llar ge\u00e7er, gay\u0131nnan\u0131n felek e\u015fe\u011fine \u2018\u00e7\u00fc\u015f\u2019 dedi\u011fi zaman, gelinin eline d\u00fc\u015ferdi. O zaman eziyet s\u0131ras\u0131 geline gelirdi. \u00a0Garip gelinler; gay\u0131nnadan \u00e7ok \u00e7ekmi\u015fler\u2026eltiden \u00e7ok \u00e7ekmi\u015fler\u2026g\u00f6r\u00fcmceden \u00e7ok \u00e7ekmi\u015fler\u2026\u00fcstelik bir de gocadan \u00e7ekmi\u015fler. \u0130n\u015fallah ahirette \u00e7ekmezler.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>BOLVAD\u0130N\u2019DE GEL\u0130N OLMAK Gelin olmak\u2026Her gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n r\u00fcyas\u0131\u2026B\u00fct\u00fcn k\u0131zlar, gelin olabilmenin hayaliyle ya\u015farlar. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczdeki gelin k\u0131zlar, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzdaki gelinlere g\u00f6re \u00e7ok farkl\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz gelinleri her t\u00fcrl\u00fc imkana sahip olup; genellikle rahat, konfor ve l\u00fcks hayat i\u00e7indedirler. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u201cEv ev \u00fcst\u00fcnde olmaz\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle kaynana yan\u0131nda oturmay\u0131p, ayr\u0131 bir evde oturmak isterler. Evlenmeden b\u00fct\u00fcn e\u015fyalar\u0131 al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[203],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v15.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>BOLVAD\u0130N\u2019DE GEL\u0130N OLMAK | N. 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